15 The term sex is worth to Know

Have time to hang out with friends and talk about issues surrounding sex and lovemaking pattern, you do not know what they are talking about or do not feel familiar with the term that they launched? Even possible when you chat with your loved one and he asked for something in terms of sex that feels foreign to you. Want to be ridiculed and embarrassed to ask but practically stupid? So, do not worry, here are some terms that you should know about sex.


1. Anilingus

This term relates to oral sex around the anus. But still you must remember anilingus very risky, because having sex through the anus is very susceptible to bacteria and easily spread the infection.

2. Barebacking

Barebacking involving sexual penetration without the use of safety devices (condoms). This term is usually associated with anal sex and vaginal sex.

3. BDSM

BDSM is Bondage and Discipline of acronim, SADISM and Masochism. This term relates to the incorporation of sexual practices that involve pain and the elements of violence during sex, injuring a spouse or yourself to achieve satisfaction during sex.

4. Bukkake

Bukkake related to "facials," the term is related to ejaculation on a woman's face. Bukkake is the act where the man ejaculates in her partner's face, act like it a lot of us have encountered in the production of blue films Japan.

5. Dental dams

The term is usually often encountered in oral sex woman, a dental dam is usually made of sheer latex and is used as a protective sex cunnilingus. Cunnilingus is to provide stimulation to the female genitals using the tongue to Miss. V.

6. Dirty Sanchez

Term that refers to sexual practices that can make a person very rarely in the mood to do so.
1. where a woman's sex organ oral first sex partner after engaging in anal sex.
2. Mr. wipe. P or your hands with 'her mine' after previously inserted in his anus. Just as anilingus, Dirty Sanchez are at high risk and could easily spread the infection because the bacteria contained in the anus.

7. Edgeplay

Edgeplay, something which is assumed as a sexual behavior is a dangerous and risky.

8. Felching

Felching is a sudden ejaculation into the woman's anus and lick and suck semen out.

9. Frottage

A term that represents the sexual behavior is more subtle than previous sexual behavior. Frottage refers to a movement to achieve kenimatan rub each other without even sexual penetration. Also called dry humping frottage.

10. Pearl necklace

The term given when a man ejaculates around or near the woman's neck and shaped like a pearl necklace pearl necklace.

11. Pudendum (pudendal)

The term used to refer to the external female genital organs: vulva

12. Queef

Queef associated with vaginal fart. Sometimes, when Mr.. P venturing out into Ms. V at regular intervals, the air will be trapped within the walls of Ms. V which triggers the air out, usually known as flatus. Unlike models of anal sex, Queef not cause odor, and not too risky to spread bacteria.

13. Shrimping

Not everyone likes the style of sex or include this model, shrimping, referring to the act of sucking and licking toes spouse before or after sex. It's not all couples like this, but women like their feet touched, massaged, and even sucked or licked. Assume that their feet completely clean, the women admitted if they liked their partner more attention to the soles of the feet, heels or their toes, tickle her and make it with joy, because taste sensitivity in the fingers and feet.

14. Smegma

The substance that resembles a white curd that comes out through the sebaceous glands to Mr.. P collected under the foreskin of the penis is not circumcised penis. Very little amount of such susbtantion useful to the penis, this substance is usually found on Mr. P that are rarely cleaned.

15. Snowballing

Oral sex is often referred to as part of the foreplay. Where involving genitals and mouths. Oral sex for women is called cunnilingus. Cunnilingus is to provide stimulation to the female genitals using the tongue on Ms. V. While oral sex for men is called fellatio. Fellatio is to provide stimulation pad Mr.P by way sucked, licked and kissed.

Snowballing, a term in which women perform fellatio on him and he ejaculates, she will keep the liquid that comes out during ejaculation in his mouth and began to kiss her. When kissing, the liquid will move from the mouth of another woman to the man, until one of swallow the liquid

6 How to Maintain Breast Stay Healthy

Breast cancer is classified as the most feared diseases of women. And if you know the symptoms from an early age, his chances to develop into cancer is much lower than older women. And if the cancer is attacked, its nature will be more aggressive, according to Debra Mangino, MD, of Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center in New York.

Therefore, you need to maintain a healthy lifestyle to protect your breasts. There are several ways you can do to keep your body remains healthy:

1. Maintain a healthy weight
Adding weight it could increase the risk of developing breast cancer, while reducing your chances to survive from the disease, according to Harold Freeman, MD, president and founder of the Ralph Lauren Center for Cancer and Prevention in New York City.

2. Do not be lazy to exercise
It's hard to start training, but if you do not start soon, you will not get used. Perform the exercise for 45 minutes to 1 hour, 3-5 times a week. Regular exercise can help prevent this disease by boosting your immune function, get rid of obesity, and lower levels of estrogen and insulin.

3. Reduce alcohol
Many say, a little alcohol would be good for health. Apparently, it is better when applied to men. Whereas in women, research shows that two glasses of alcohol a day may increase breast cancer risk by 21 percent. However, you can take advantage of this alcohol with a snack of fresh grapes. Resveratrol, an ingredient found in grape skins, was able to reduce levels of estrogen, which can reduce the risk of developing breast cancer.

4. Eating raw broccoli
We already know what the benefits of vegetables, but still we are lazy to eat. Vegetables are able to give extra protection to the breast for example, broccoli and kale (a type of green cabbage). These vegetables contain sulforaphane, which is believed to help prevent the division of cancer cells. So that the effect is getting stronger in fighting cancer, eat in a raw state.

5. Know your family history
Women who had breast cancer does not automatically "inherit" the disease in her daughters. However, "Of the approximately 15 percent of breast cancer cases, there is a family history of disease," said Freeman. If you have a first degree family member who had breast cancer, your risk is increased. If there are two affected family members, your risk increases fivefold.

6. Consult
All women should undergo a clinical breast exam at least every three years, as well as mammogram examination every year since the age of 40 years. Women who have a family history of breast cancer should begin screening before age 10 years when a family member diagnosed with the disease. Nothing to be afraid when you start it as early as possible, right?

8 Ways Make Vagina The OK!

DEGREES acidity of the vagina approximately 7.1 to 7.3. To maintain the stability of vaginal health, women should understand the following points:

1. Change pads as often as possible.

2. After sex, the outside of the vagina should always be cleaned. "Certainly not with ordinary soap,". We recommend using a special cleaning soap vagina.

3. Change your underwear at least 2-3 times a day.

4. Use cotton underwear that absorbs perspiration. When using a panty liner preferably for 2-3 hours.

5. Not wearing nylon pants, jeans, and leather that are too tight.

6. For women who had sexual intercourse and childbirth, at least do a pap smear once a year. For those who have gone through menopause, do 2-3 years.

7. Keep your weight to normal. Do not let obesity because it makes the vagina is closed so that the moist folds of fat.

8. Keep your health in general by eating a balanced nutritious diet.

5 Facts About Breast

For women, the breast is an asset that must be kept health and beauty. Here's five facts about the asset.

1. Have a monthly cycle
A week before and during menstruation takes place, progesterone hormone excess will make your breasts enlarged, uneven, and it hurt. The day after menstruation, breast tissue will be more gentle.

2. can wrinkles
Thin swimsuit can only block the sun's rays with an SPF of 5 or 7. Spread cream containing SPF 15 plus UVA and UVB rays while swimming. Without adequate protection, the breast may arise wrinkles and brown spots.

3. Avoid the prone sleeping position
Prone sleep position is not going to make your breasts deflate, but the shape becomes imperfect. For the sake of convenience and does not change the breast shape, wear a comfortable bra worn while sleeping. Avoid underwire bras.

4. Greater right
Right breast is usually larger than the left. This is because the right breast has a lot of networks rather than his twin brother.

5. Area have T
The area above and between the breasts filled with oil glands. Excessive oil caused black spots and acne. To that end, clean the area every day with T or moisturizing antibacterial powder.

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"Reparations" Through Vagina Vaginoplasti

Ever heard of the so-called vaginoplasti? Action, Äúreparasi, Äù vagina requires a clear medical indication. So, do not be alone in pursuit of sexual gratification?

The act of cutting the vaginal muscles are actually intended for the mothers who gave birth to many children (more than 5 times) as normal and not a fault, or had given birth vaginally to a baby weighing over 4 kg without getting stitches perineum as it should.

Other medical indications intended for women who experience uterine prolapse or hernia. A woman diagnosed with uterine prolapse is when the vaginal wall down the back and front so that was in the vaginal opening. This condition is of course very torturing women are concerned. Why can the vaginal wall sagging? Not because the muscles are so weak that hang "eaten" age. Not surprisingly, uterine prolapse is generally experienced by women approaching menopause, ie, 5-10 years before the onset of menopause which usually appears at the age of 40 years and over.

Abnormalities of the vagina
Absolute indication does vaginoplasti is no formation of the so-called vaginal agenesis atrisia or vagina, so that the corresponding physical identity as a woman is often questionable. Fortunately, such cases are extremely rare. Which is also regarded as a disorder that is only partially formed vagina (partial agenesis), the vagina has a boundary between the upper and lower (transverse septum) or the left and right (longitudinal septum) and the hymen has no opening (hymen inferforata). So also when the labia or lips of the vagina is too wide or even experiencing attachment to each other.

Abnormalities were generally occurs by default due to disturbance during the formation and growth of the vagina. Can also be obtained due to infection, such as chronic vaginal discharge that is not addressed thoroughly. It could also be due to the trauma of childbirth in which protrusion of the front vaginal wall (cystocele), protrusion of the rear wall (rektokel), widening of the vaginal canal and widening the mouth of the vagina (vaginal introitus) due to the rupture aka perineal tearing the perineum.

It is not possible anyway due to the occurrence of fistula or abnormalities of the gastrointestinal tract between the vagina and the vagina with lower urinary tract (vesico vaginal fistula) that make the urine or feces contaminate the vagina instead. Normally, between the vagina and the anal canal is at least 0.5 cm to 2 cm.

Complete inspection
Well, to the conditions that vaginoplasti action needs to be done. As with any surgery in general, before undergoing vaginoplasti, a woman must undergo a series of examinations. Start anamnesis, physical examination, general check-ups include urine and blood examination, blood pressure and photos thorax, gynecologic examination and IVP (intravenous pyelogram) that allows the doctor to see the full picture of the bladder is in place whether actual or not, to test digital rectal .

Although medically vaginoplasti intended for women with conditions such as those mentioned above, did not dismiss the fact that there are certain circles who underwent vaginoplasti pursuit of sexual satisfaction. Logically, to cut the muscles of the vagina is vagina become more narrow. This condition is most likely to give sexual satisfaction to the husband.

whether the women themselves experience the same level of satisfaction? Not necessarily! Since it is very possible he actually in pain because of the presence of re-action cutting and sewing of course flexibility vagina muscles are not as naturally as when it was not "repaired"

Secret Sexual Fantasies ; "The Perfect Lover" (2)

The most popular sexual fantasies among men and women involve images of sex with a passionate, attractive, exciting partner who will do whatever you want, even if that means dominating you.

Your Perfect Lover could be someone you know; it could even be your real-life partner. It could be someone you saw in class or at work but never talk to, a celebrity with whom you feel a connection, or a complete stranger you happened to face for two intense minutes in a crowded elevator. It could be someone that would be your ideal mate, if only you could be together. Or it could be someone very taboo: a relative, your best friend’s spouse, a “bad” boy or girl, someone of whom you know your family would disapprove. Perfect Lovers run the gamut, but the universal characteristic is that you find this person irresistible and extremely satisfying, at least in fantasy.

Even very traditional ladies who prefer romance to porn enjoy the fantasy of the Perfect Lover. While such a scenario might involve nothing more than kissing, Perfect Lover fantasies can entail sexual intercourse in every position. Oral sex (giving or receiving) is a big favorite, followed by manual sex, anal sex (giving or receiving) and mutual masturbation. In addition to these basic physical sex acts, there are many other types of sex about which you might fantasize, especially if you feel deprived of a particular favorite activity. Your Perfect Lover will never deprive you…unless you have a deprivation fetish.

One popular variation on the Perfect Lover is what I call “Some Enchanted Evening”: sex with a sexy stranger. It’s not that I’m recommending sex with a real-life stranger, at least not without sheathing your body in a suit of latex armor, the shining armor of the knight of the 21st century, but the fantasy of sex with an exciting, attractive stranger is a delightful aphrodisiac that many women and men enjoy. One of the reasons these kinds of lovers are “perfect” is that you don’t know them at all.

It’s even more common to fantasize about your real-life lover, who may not be perfect, but must be pretty hot and is certainly familiar and easy enough to conjure up in the erotic theater of your mind. But because it’s a secret sexual fantasy, you might imagine something different than the usual. Maybe you fantasize that your real-life lover is aggressive even though he or she is usually passive, or the two of you are being watched, or perhaps you imagine yourself watching your lover have sex with someone else. This brings us to the next most popular type of fantasy…to be continued

Thinking of a threesome? (3 - finish)

Other reasons for feeling tempted by three-in-a-bed can be that you have a sexual problem which needs sorting out - difficulty in reaching orgasm or maintaining an erection, for example.

If so, please let me know and I can send you details of self-help and expert sex therapy.

It could be there is some tension in your relationship which needs looking at. As I've said, our sex lives and our feelings are closely linked. Difficulties in our sexual relationship are very often symptoms of more general problems.

A woman who is always tired out because she shoulders most of the chores at home as well as having a paid job, for example, will lose interest in sex. A man who is overwhelmed with worries about holding on to his job may well find his sex drive crashes.

You may be able to sort these out by talking between you - perhaps taking some time out, such as a weekend away from the home and kids. If you get stuck, Relate counsellors are trained to help you work through just such difficult issues. finish

Secret Sexual Fantasies ; "Two Perfect Lovers—Or More!" (3)

Double your pleasure, double your fun; sex with two lovers is more fun than one! The threesome is another very common sexual fantasy.

It’s often associated with the male erotic imagination, and it’s certainly one of the most widespread male fantasies, invoking images of double-wived patriarchs and the pleasures of the harem. But women are catching up as it becomes more acceptable for us to admit we’d like to be with two hot men at once, or perhaps a man and another woman.

The male standard is sex with two women, of course–often a girlfriend and another lady. This sort of ménage à trois fantasy is flattering to your erotic ego and gives you a sex-educational glimpse into the secrets of lesbian sex. Of course, these are not man-hating lesbians; in fact, they love your penis!

More and more men now also confess that they fantasize about having a threesome with a woman and another man. The level of imagined physical intimacy can run the gamut from barely touching the man while you both focus on the woman all the way to the two men having intense sex while the woman simply watches or “directs.” You might also imagine watching the other man have his sexual way with your woman, with you as the “cuckold,” creating what I call the “sperm wars” effect, a competitive rise in your sperm count that arouses you even if you feel jealous and insecure.

Threesome fantasies can be so vivid, especially if one of the partners is your real-life lover, that many people try breathing life into them. The resulting reality spans from having a beautiful experience which enhances your relationship, as well as your sense of your sexual self, to an awful, awkward incident that hurts everyone involved. One thing is for certain: Everything in any fantasy is “perfect” as far as your libido is concerned. Reality, however, is not quite so in tune with what turns you on, let alone what turns on your real-life partner or the third party.

A threesome can become an orgy, which is another common sexual fantasy. One way to keep sexual monogamy from becoming monotony is to maintain an active fantasy life with as many different partners as you can imagine. I happen to have a personal soft spot for real-life orgies, holding them regularly at my Institute, giving me and everyone here not just the chance to live out a common fantasy, but the opportunity to experience real-life communal ecstasy. But that’s the subject of another bloggamy and another Master’s Tea. Back to fantasy… to be continued

Do Women Like Porn? (2)

I enjoy some porn, if it’s tastefully done, involves no violence, aggression or sex with animals, and has content other than a succession of close-ups of genitals.

And, I’ve watched erotica and porn with a man more than I’ve watched it alone-actually I’ve never watched it alone. Many sex therapists will tell you that watching erotic material together as a couple can be very stimulating. I would agree, and I don’t read romance novels. Here’s one dissenter to the study already.

But I wonder if this study doesn’t reflect in some ways the growing trend in our culture to depict sex in its most stripped down, rawest form. We are inundated with sexual innuendoes on billboards, magazines and commercials.

Movies and television shows are full of sex scenes and rarely in the context of a committed relationship. It has become commonplace, impersonal, and often so salacious that pornography has had to become more intense just to regain its titillating factor.

One can’t help but wonder if we are becoming increasingly desensitized to sexual content and what impact that has in the bedroom. The cultural portrayal of sex bears little resemblance to what happens in reality.

Airbrushed bodies, vigorous men, and women who have an infinite series of unending orgasms trick us into unrealistic expectations and anxieties. Will he be virile and capable of bringing me to orgasm so quickly? Will I be able to maintain that kind of erection and perform as she expects? And, really, what most of us want is a simpler, more sincere form of sexual connection. to be continued

Thinking of a threesome? (2)

Long-term relationships always have their niggles and shared responsibilities.

A different partner can make you feel better not because they are a better lover or person, but just because they aren't directly connected with your day-to-day life. It's escapism but, unfortunately, someone always winds up hurt.

Threesomes can also play up doubts about sexuality. If one of you is keen to have someone else of the same sex in your bed, is it just to thrill your partner, or is it that you are more gay than you've perhaps admitted or even realised?

If that could be an issue, then my special free leaflet Gay worries? would help you sort out your feelings, but what more commonly lies behind people's urge to try a three-in-a-bed session is difficulty in giving themselves over to real intimacy.

They don't really surrender themselves to experience the depth of emotions and passion that can be aroused and satisfied by quite conventional love-making.

This will often be linked with difficulty in sharing open affection in day-to-day life too. If you can learn to trust your partner with your deepest feelings, then your love-making can be so rich that you feel no need to involve others to spice it up. That can be far more satisfying, as well as safer.

Making such a change will usually involve shifts in a couple's whole relationship - and is best attempted with the help of a counsellor. to be continued

Secret Sexual Fantasies

Your fantasies are always with you, playing hide-and-seek with your perceived realities, whispering wild ideas into your inner ear, showing movies in your mind, stirring your passions mysteriously, yet so powerfully.

If you are imprisoned in any way–by your work, your family, your education, your religion, your government–your fantasies become your freedom. Sometimes your ability to fantasize is the only freedom you have.

Where does fantasy end and reality begin? The English philosopher John Richter said, "Fantasy rules over two-thirds of the universe,
the past and the future, while reality is confined to the present."

Fantasy–the original “theater of the mind”–makes up a huge portion of human consciousness. Memory, as it filters through the mind’s eye, is a kind of fantasy that gazes backward, into the past. Hope, anticipation, fear and ambition are fantasies that look toward the future. Our sexuality is fueled by fantasies of the past and the future, as well as “pure” fantasies–wild dreams that never happened and that you never really want to have happen–that haunt and stimulate you like a kinky parallel universe.

A sexual fantasy can be a long, complicated story, a quick mental flash of erotic imagery or something in between. Whatever form it
takes, it arouses your sexual feelings. As such, your favorite fantasy is the G-spot of your mind. Experts agree that sexual fantasies are important, powerful and pervasive. But they can’t agree on much more about them.

For every study that concludes that women or men fantasize one way, there’s another that concludes the opposite. If you look hard enough, you can find a study to prove any theory about sexual fantasies and another one to disprove it. Maybe this is because it is very difficult to measure fantasies except through questionnaires, and it is so easy and tempting to lie on questionnaires, especially when it comes to opening up about our deepest, darkest, most embarrassing, secret, sexual fantasies.

Therefore, I will not use many studies to justify my points here. As a sex therapist with one of the largest private practices in the world and a sex-oriented radio and TV talk show host for over two decades, as well as an erotically-married woman for almost 18 years, I base my observations on my own professional and personal experience, which I believe is as good a “study” on fantasy as any.

Before we discuss where your secret fantasies come from and whether or not to share them with anyone, let’s take a look at some of the most common ones.-abd- to be continued

Do Women Like Porn?

Is the romance novel to a woman what porn is to a man? If you read “The Online World of Female Desire.”, a Wall Street Journal article by Ogi Ogas, you may come to that conclusion.

The author speaks of his research on sexual desire, as revealed in internet searches of popular adult sites and other web destinations. The conclusion: men prefer two- minute porn flicks and women prefer romance novels as means of sexual stimulation.

The author and his research partner put forth the theory that women don’t watch porn, based on the subscription rate to online porn sites where men outnumber women subscribers 50 to 1. But does that really mean that women don’t watch porn? The fact that women buy romance novels isn’t proof, to me, that the romance story is the female equivalent to porn. They researchers would have needed a direct survey of women to verify that romance novels offer the same erotic sensation that a hardcore porn film provides to men.

Men and women do display variations in what they find erotic. It has commonly been assumed that men are more visual than women and we know that men are more likely to get right down to ‘it’ rather than endure a narrative or slow undressing of the character. But those are gross oversimplifications of the gender divide. This is the Mars, Venus scenario taken to the extreme.  to be continued

Threesome

A THREE-IN-A-BED session can sound like a lot of harmless fun but I know this issue causes a great deal of unhappiness and conflict between many couples.

The most common situation I hear about from readers seems to be that it's the man who first raises the idea of the couple taking another man or woman into their bed.

He finds thinking about it very arousing - it's almost like an extension of reading a sexy magazine or watching a video, a sexual fantasy. He may have been finding his ordinary married or regular sex life a bit dull, so goes on and on at his partner not to be prudish.

She may or may not agree to give it a try but if you are caught in this dilemma, whatever stage you have reached in this, let me suggest you stop right now.

Perhaps there are a few couples who happily manage three-in-a-bed sessions on a regular basis and never let it affect a close and loving relationship, but they are so rare I have never come across them. Yet week after week I hear from couples who have experimented and been made very miserable.

The trouble is that real people don't behave like the fantasies and usually have very muddled feelings.

A husband who has pushed his wife into making love with another man may then reproach her for being unfaithful to him – "You should have kept saying no," he moans.

He may say he now feels he can never trust her again and leave - what a way to discover that what was arousing him wasn't really the idea of "swinging" but old-fashioned sexual jealousy.

Or the woman may decide she's fallen in love with the other man. We all have some problems in long-term relationships. It's all too easy to fall for the idea that someone you're sharing different and exciting sex with would actually be a better life partner, is a lovelier person.

Sometimes it's true. More often they're just a different person - and it's always worth wondering what sort of person they really are to get dragged into all this in the first place.

If it's another woman you've invited into your bed, then all the same problems can arise the other way round. A wife may find she's tormented by images of her husband with the other woman in their bed.

She may have agreed to go along with the idea of a three-in-a-bed session, may have thought it sounded like fun, but afterwards discovers it's ruined the happy sex life she and her husband used to share.

That can place a terrible strain on their relationship even if he never sees the other woman again.

Even worse, a wife may find she's been sidelined and her husband is clearly keener to make love to the other woman than to her. She may worry - and perhaps have good reason to worry - that they are having an affair. to be continued

Do Women Have Ejaculation?

Does a woman ejaculate? A study says if women also ejaculate, even if they do not realize it. Miss V fluid, secreted urine is not alkaline fluid that is stored by the uretrha gland. Glands produce the enzyme prostatic uretrha phphatase ACID (PAP) and glucose (sugar), substances that were encountered when women ejaculate than urine.

Discharge from the glands of the uretrha issued when having an orgasm as a result of pelvic muscle contractions. Stimulation of the g-spot or gland of the uretrha not required to produce it because it can occur without orgasm, these glands would be filled with fluid and eventually will spread out.

Urine or ejaculate?

In some cases, all fluids are removed from the woman's urethra is ejaculate. In other cases the fluid may be a mixture of ejaculate and urine, or urine only just.

Research carried out often give conflicting results, no studies have concluded that it was premature or ejaculation with little urine.


This is clearly in mind, although not all women produce the alkaline fluid in small amounts it will break out or removed and mixed with sweat vaginal fluid or oil.

No one accurately to determine whether a woman is deliberately removing urine or ejaculate during orgasm? All of this fluid on the body although the urethra is still a common source for all liquids.

How much fluid is expelled?

The amount of fluid released by the glands parauretrhal change from the couple spent nearly 2 cups, 15 ounces (444 ml). As much as 2 cups of fluid, as much huh? Paraurethral glands gland that surrounds the urethra in the area about a half inch (1.25 cm) in diameter and 1.5 inches (3.8 cm) for length. In an area the size like this when filled with water to achieve 0163 oz (4.8 ml). Although the gland enlarges to fill the area of ​​1 inch (2.5 cm) in diameter and 2 inches (5 cm) to the length they still can only hold 0.87 ounces (26 ml).

If the gland parauretrhal can store less than 1 ounce of liquid, so from where another 14 ounces of fluid? Imagine the gland is then to produce fluid for this woman sexually aroused or woman got up and the results can produce more than 1 fluid ounce in each ejaculation or any subsequent discharge occurs.

A study of a woman can produce 30 to 50 cc (207 to 444 ml), to produce a fluid that many of these glands need to be filled and empty occasional or more per second. This means the paraurethral glands will produce 3 to 5 cc (6.9 to 8.9 ml) per second on average.

If the paraurethral glands have the ability to fill and empty with high speed, it would explain the volume of fluid is measured by several researchers, meaning that the longer orgasm ends, she will ejaculate as often happens.

As a man born liar?

As expressions which made the Marquis de Sade, In an age That is utterly corrupt, the best policy is to do as others do. We find many men who lie to others, there may be some who can accept or even bad for others. Cases are more prevalent these days is the LA Lakers star, Kobe Bryant, who was married accused of sexual assault on a student.

In fact the men had cheated women since women began to come around to being lied to and it seems it will never stop. This article just gives another insight into the reasons why men always cheat.
The problem is why men tend to be born to be a liar or if we are born with male chromosomes content that encourages us to spread our seed.

Examples of Famous Men

Let's start with some men who are not only famous but also popular in the eyes of a woman other than the fact that the public has to know that they always pretended busy in bed.

1. Earvin "Magic" Johnson
Rumors say that the Lakers players are sleeping with many women, and in fact he even had HIV. Even so, women but idolizes Earvin made from plants like mint-scented.

2. Bill Clinton
Women still love this man even after he looked straight into our eyes and blatantly lied about his sexual indiscretions. Bubba remains the man many people, except, perhaps Hillary.

3. Hugh Grant
The fact that the beautiful British artist Elizabeth Hurley is always whispering sweet words every night at Hugh's ear before he sleeps not enough for him. But when caught with pants sagging down (which happens easily) with Miss Divine Brown, he was still able to make the ladies swoon.

4. Hugh Hefner
Like other men, I will gladly swap my anatomy with this Playboy grotto and visit; I just wanted to see Her and his girlfriend 12. The man is good, she was fascinated because of his blond hair. Of course he was not a liar and not just some thing that fits for Viagra.

Definition of Lie

Is it a lie? Is it still acceptable to lie within certain limits? What if the woman is his brother? Okay ... ... that's just a joke, but many people use different terms to define which includes lies and what is not. Cheating (deception / infidelity) - when a person's sexual relations including oral sex, kissing, touching genitals or having an affair with someone other than their official relationship without realizing that doing so will hurt their partner.

History Can One

Having evolved about five million years ago, no one can change men more than 10 thousand million years. Men have built up a desire to sow the seed as much as possible. This is a simple way to maintain the species in nature - the men will meet with the weaker sex to preserve their offspring.

This process takes place in nearly all parts of the world as a process that can be accepted as a part of life. Maybe we already know that lying is always easy to do with a bit of guilt.

Many men who have a friend who always lied all the time whether it is together with his mistress, or at a local massage parlor. Most of the men thinking to increase the level of their sex, and number of those levels will give a reflection to achieve anything rubbing in lovemaking techniques.

Terms of Lie

Let's face it - about the man and the lies that are not just revolve around his sexual relationships. Poker, taxes, jobs, and all the things you think. And if everything can be done, men tend to always see a way to lie, so we will not be surprised to find it again.

Women and Lies

Do not assume that women do lie with a lie on men. However, almost similar to men, women also have a biological urge to lie. During ovulation women instinctively try to find a stronger sperm to enter them. And women will naturally attract men with the instinct of a hunter.

Biologically when a woman is ovulating they will look for strong sperm to enter their body, and usually a good sperm came from men who physically attractive and powerful.

However, use of oral contraceptives in women also allow for cheating they could delay pregnancy even when they start looking for a date. So they can channel their passion and go out with the sexiest man without having to worry about pregnancy.

But men tend to cheat more than women, and accept all of this by making themselves more and more obese, or even refrain from sexual activity rather than having to accept all of betrayal. After all, if women can take it then why should men stop cheating?

Men remain men, and men like a fool - especially the men who have not been discussed. As long as there is still the weaker sex and the presence of moral leniency for cheating then men will continue having an affair.

Fat Men More Faithful?

A study in Germany indicate if obese men tend to be more loyal than thinner men, although not shut out the fat man having an affair. Because obese men have the tendency of like to avoid risky sex.

Forsa, the originator of the research group wrote in their journals if the man with the weight of the body 'normal' has a tendency to infidelity two times higher than overweight men.

Besides mentioned less like an affair, he also recorded rarely grow drums visit brothels (brothel) or fantasize about sex via sex phone lines.
Research conducted at approximately one thousand German men aged 31 to 69 years was noted that about 23 percent of male-bodied 'normal' confessed love affair while 11 percent of men admitted obese category with a faithful partner. And about 19 percent male-bodied 'slightly chubby' admitted tend to like to 'play' behind their partner.

Lack of opportunity to be an affair is not the main reason for male-bodied 'fat' but more because they tend to avoid the risks of sex are always obtained in the affair. This statement is supported Sascha Rusch, men's health experts, who say men are obese tend to be less sexually active and are rarely involved sexual adventures, if size is more slender than men.

Causes of Difficult Women Have Orgasm

Research shows that about 12% of women can not reach climax and 75% did not experience orgasm during sex. Why does this happen? Physical problems, psychological or both?

A. Physical cause

Most problems encountered in physical problems is the lack of sufficient stimulation of the clitoris.

The majority of women require direct touch to reach orgasm and this is often not happening during sex itself.

Other physical factors are tired or is sick. Our body is not a machine, just by touching the 'O' you'll get an orgasm. If our bodies are tired, our bodies just need rest, sleep and a healing, not sexual gratification.

B. Medical conditions that make the body difficult to reach orgasm

There are some diseases that make a person difficult to orgasm, let's call it a disease associated with blood vessels, nerves, or hormonal disorders.
Problems can also arise due to undergo some treatment such as surgery pelvis (pelvic surgery) which sometimes damage the surrounding nerves and causing loss of sensation around the area.

But if you have a healthy body and sleep well and do not experience health problems, difficult orgasm is due to psychological problems.

C. Obsession

A good friend often says, 'Rest' or 'Let all the flow. "But if it's as easy as possible we have been doing from now on. That need to be remembered by a friend is that this is a psychological problem that is not so simple to overcome.

Here are some of the problems often experienced by women:

° to perfectionist - Sex often becomes a target, but the environments and mood should be mutually supportive.
· Fear of losing control - maybe someone plays a role in your life, not just about sex.

· Poor sense of respect for the body itself - too worried about butt is too big rather than thinking about the sensation of sex that they will achieve.

· Guilt or shame about sex because dark past as a child or sexual trauma.

· Disturbance - whether the kids are asleep? if the phone rang? Do neighbors hear us? if I had put the cat outside? Any disturbance that you face, your mind never focused.

· Spectatoring - Maybe you often hear the phrase 'a watched pot never boils' - means that if you wait then you probably will never reach that moment.

· Relationship problems - of course you do not want to have sex with your enemy, try to resolve the problem before entering the room.

Tips:

If indeed you have not received stimuli, try to show your partner what makes you really enjoy it.

· Identify yourself by starting a few basic personal pleasure (self-pleasuring), make a note of what can make you reach the top.

· When you start having sex, place your hands on your partner's body and gently guided them into areas that make you horny. If your partner feels too rushed, try to ask them to show what makes them excited, and be patient waiting for your turn.

· Try the following exercises:

- Communicate in bed
- Exploration genital (women)
- Communicating about sex
- Exciting yourself

How to trigger an orgasm

· Pull the air inhaled breath to relax the muscles and nerves of the body.
· Bend your back or try different positions to maximize clitoral stimulation.
· Massage your pelvic gently and rhythmically along.
· Try to control yourself from distractions or negative thoughts from your mind.

Guiding Toward Women Orgasm

Different from men, women need a lot of prerequisites and requirements to produce an orgasm sexual relationship. This is where the male partner are taking the role. What should be understood and carried out before the male partner, while it is underway, and after the ritual husband and wife?

There are several factors that support that orgasm can be achieved by a woman, among others:

1. Couples who really liked, loved, loved.

2. Romantic atmosphere experienced before and during intercourse. To achieve this atmosphere, a few hours or even days before the couple can give the words a soft, flattering, and leads to a romantic atmosphere.

3. A comfortable environment. For example, the bedroom is quiet and comfortable. Low lights and soft music can help create a comfortable atmosphere in the bedroom.

4. Feel wanted and loved. This feeling is greatly needed a woman. From the behavior and body language can be known whether the husband or partner really wants or pleases him.

5. Male partner to understand how to stimulate certain areas that make her partner aroused, such as the clitoris or breasts. It depends on each individual. To find out about it, he can ask and discuss with the woman or wife. He should also not do the stimulation on the areas that are not preferred partner.

6. A good flow of natural lubrication. A woman will be more comfortable if you can experience natural lubrication. But when it is not able, for example at the time of menopause, this can be overcome by administering a synthetic lubricant fluids, such as jelly with various existing brands.

If all the above efforts have been made, believe a woman will be helped to achieve orgasm

Knowing How To Orgasm In Women

If a woman becomes aroused, it increases blood flow to the vagina, causing lubrication and swelling of the labia minora, labia majora and the clitoris. At the moment of orgasm, the contractions will be felt in the vagina, anal sphincter, and uterus.

Most of the women say, at the time of greatest contraction pascaorgasmik felt in the womb, until 24 hours later. After the blood has been collected on the genitals would return flows through the body more slowly than men. This explains why women can experience orgasms plateau and returned more quickly than men.

During masturbation too, not necessarily a woman having an orgasm. Such an event is experienced by more than 10 to 15 percent of women. And 15 per cent achieve orgasm only through masturbation. And women who reach orgasm through coitus only about 30 percent.

Now this is not a few women who suffer from a disease called missed orgasm. Indeed they seem to have the signs if they have an orgasm is physiologically, including contraction, but their brains do not say, and "feel" full orgasm. Perhaps the cause is the denial of feelings of pleasure experienced by the woman psychologically.

But, the good news is, many women experience orgasm easier with age. Feelings of insecurity and discomfort they felt at the age of about 20's and began to disappear at the age of 30. At that age when women have greater self confidence will cause them to be relaxed about sex. And keep in mind also that at the age of 30 are sexual arousal and orgasm in women generally will increase.

Then, what they say about orgasm?

Their responses are diverse, depending on the female. Someone had an orgasm with depending on the position, one can reach orgasm through stimulation cunnilingus before coitus, anyone get it through clitoral stimulation, and some get it while he masturbated.

How can a woman actually reach orgasm when having sex with a partner?

First, try to change any attitudes that prevent orgasm, like mind "He is tired, or I take too long ... .. I need more quickly", or that your partner should give me an orgasm, do not let your partner know what it that you like, and thought if it please his partner is more important than to please himself.

Second, many-many are experimenting with positions and find the position of the most effective and convenient for you. Many women say that the woman on top is when women control the angle and depth of penetration and speed of his body position is the most conductive to orgasm. Try leaning your body and tighten your legs to add more friction to the clitoris.

Third, increase your physical tension by using pubokoksigeus muscles and muscles of the vagina, because it can strengthen the muscles tighten orgasm.

Fourth, provide additional stimulation to the clitoris. Use your finger yourself or ask your partner to stimulate this area.

Orgasm is achieved because of anatomical and physiological factors. Among most of the women may have a larger clitoris than average. In a position such that the penis can stimulate the clitoris during coitus. They will be able to easily study her body and her partner's body to get clitoral stimulation.

How exactly the attitude and behavior of women who are likely to reach orgasm?

1. They will not be ashamed to ask him what he needs or to move him correctly during sexual intercourse.

2. They will feel that he is entitled to enjoyment, such as by enjoying masturbation, oral and manual stimulation of partner. It would be better if they do not touch your own genitals because women have been taught since childhood not to touch their own genitals. But if necessary you or your partner can do it yourself.

3. They will be free to try to think and fantasize sexually, and not express feelings of guilt as practiced by most women.

From there we can see that are in bonds of love and marriage do not always cause a woman to achieve orgasm, even if they get the warmth and comfort needed to achieve them. It takes more kiss to wake the sleeping princess.

You (men) will get a different orgasmic responses when doing so for the first time. You may easily get an orgasm when first exhilarating experience. The reason - not sex - in a girl is very good at all for various reasons. Because if a girl has a negative sexual experiences, including torture ever experienced, he will easily run into problems reaching orgasm as adults, even in marriage full of love though.

The characteristics of the Women Achieve Orgasm

SOMETIMES we can not be sure whether our partner is a woman who easily orgasm or just the opposite. Of course it will be a consideration in determining the prospective partner, because the achievement of female orgasm different time.

According to some experts sexology research, anatomy and physiology allows the factors that influence women to reach orgasm easily. Or maybe some women have a clitoris larger than average, or in any position, so that their partners penis during penetration capable of stimulating the clitoris.

The couple usually can learn easily how to adjust his body against her partner's body, so they get clitoral stimulation. Generally they have a distinctive behavioral trait, among them:

By enjoying masturbation and oral and manual stimulation of partner, as if they are entitled to get pleasure. Possible small since they are not allowed to touch their own genitals.

Usually they do not feel embarrassed to ask what they need or by moving him during sexual intercourse.

They freely try sexual thoughts and fantasies, rather than trying as guilt as practiced by some women.
Such behaviors are behaviors that have been studied, either in a relationship or marriage is not always easy to cause a woman to achieve orgasm. Although the marriage has provided an emotional environment that required a woman to achieve orgasm.

In this initial experience is very powerful and make a difference in a woman's orgasmic response system. If your first experience is very encouraging, chances are you also going to be easy to get an orgasm.

Not having sex on the girl is a good thing, for many reasons. For example, if the girl has a negative sexual experience, such as torture, then after he grows up he will have difficulty achieving orgasm. The difficulty will be experienced until the level of marriage that should have more freedom to get an orgasm.

Women and Orgasm

Women with disability' still has the desire and sexual desire are the same as other normal woman. Do not ever look at her 'no ability' as women without sexual desire. 'Inability' they do not have a huge effect on the ability of women to enjoy sex. Here are a few things that prevent women from having an orgasm difficult.

Multiple sclerosis

Women with Multiple Sclerosis may have difficulty in achieving orgasm. This may be part of the genital organs of a dead feeling, stimulation of the genital organs may feel uncomfortable and sometimes painful, so widened vaginal intercourse is very painful thing.

Effects of Multiple Sclerosis on female sexual response may change over time, which makes it unable for a few months later started to feel it after a few weeks later.

diabetes
Approximately one third of women with diabetes will have difficulty reaching orgasm as a result of nerve damage 4 to 6 years after undergoing diagnosis. Unfortunately, the nerve damage is permanent.

Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)

A person who is difficult to have an orgasm after having undergone treatment of disease and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) syndrome is a neurological disease that usually is genetic disorder characterized by the mind, the nature of loss of impulse, anxious or anxiety that disrupt the functions and activities of daily living.

This interference would disrupt the ability of women to achieve orgasm because their minds are working too fast, can not focus on sexual stimulation or sexual fantasies for a long time. Their minds are working with a speed of 100 mph while their bodies are working with the speed of 20 mph.

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Assuming a couple feel free to experiment with what feels good to them, then they have a good chance of discovering what will lead to the woman achieving full sexual satisfaction pretty frequently, if not every time.

However, some couples experiment with different positions and techniques and still draw a blank. Too much alcohol can dry up the vaginal secretions and reduce the blood flow to the sex organs.

This in turn can make sex more painful and will affect a woman's ability to have an orgasm.Loss of orgasm can also be linked with major changes in a woman's life such as childbirth or the menopause.

Depression can severely damp down sexual feelings. It could be that she's had a bad sexual experience in the past or that there's some problem in her relationship with her partner, and unaided you can't stop it getting in the way.

For more details about the help available, or if you want a step-by-step explanation of the self-help therapy suggested earlier, do write for my more detailed free leaflet on solving orgasm problems which explains all this and gives contacts for finding expert sex therapy. finish

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The vagina has comparatively few nerve endings and the clitoris has many. Basically, few women can possibly climax unless they are receiving some form of clitoral stimulation.

Of course, it is important for the man to be sure that the woman is really aroused before he attempts intercourse, so they must share lots of loving foreplay first.

Also the man has to be able to sustain intercourse for a reasonable length of time, since it is important to keep stimulating a woman right up to and during orgasm.

If premature ejaculation is a problem, however, let me know because I can send you a free leaflet on how to solve the problem.

Reaching a climax needs some muscle tension and you can give this a nudge in the right direction.

You need to have at least half an hour of foreplay to be sure the woman is fully aroused. Then she shouldn't try to relax but tense the pelvic-floor muscle.

If she then arches her back and puts her head back, this gets her body in the right position to reach climax, as long as her partner carries on pleasuring her. to be continued
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When you have an orgasm it feels like an internal throbbing. The intensity varies widely. It can be fierce and wild, it may be quiet and sensuous. The common denominator is it certainly should feel pleasurable.

Some women learn how to masturbate, perhaps as teenagers, but find they are unable to reach a climax with their partner, even if he stimulates them in a similar way.

The most likely cause of this is a variation on the inhibited feelings mentioned before. Their sub-conscious will not let them admit to anyone else that they are enjoying sex.

Sharing regular sessions of all-over massage can help a couple start communicating physically and sexually. Use a little cream or oil, massage and stroke one another all over. Say what feels good and what not-so-good.

When the time feels right, you can begin showing one another how to give the most pleasure by stroking and massaging the sexual areas, too. The only rule is that you should both enjoy it.

Modern-style vibrators designed especially to suit women's sexual responses can make a terrific difference. Check out www.emotionalbliss.co.uk, www.durex.co.uk and www.passion8.co.uk.

Tingletip is a tiny but powerful vibrator for clitoral stimulation only, designed to fit on the head of an electric toothbrush – so great for travelling (www.tingletip.com).

The Vielle range (www.vielle.co.uk), which includes a non-electrical clitoral stimulator, lubricant and stimulating gel, is widely available in pharmacies and Boots.

Some women can climax when masturbating or when stimulated in some similar way by their partner, but cannot reach orgasm during intercourse.

In fact, this is normal, as only a minority of women do climax during intercourse. Most reach orgasm through other stimulation.

Many couples have perfectly happy ways of making love which involve the man stimulating the woman until she climaxes, either before or after intercourse.

It really doesn't matter how or when a woman reaches her climax, as long as she enjoys it, but if a couple feel that they very much would like the woman to climax during intercourse, they may find a change in position will help or he can caress her at the same time. to be continued
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When you have an orgasm it feels like an internal throbbing. The intensity varies widely. It can be fierce and wild, it may be quiet and sensuous. The common denominator is it certainly should feel pleasurable.

Some women learn how to masturbate, perhaps as teenagers, but find they are unable to reach a climax with their partner, even if he stimulates them in a similar way.

The most likely cause of this is a variation on the inhibited feelings mentioned before. Their sub-conscious will not let them admit to anyone else that they are enjoying sex.

Sharing regular sessions of all-over massage can help a couple start communicating physically and sexually. Use a little cream or oil, massage and stroke one another all over. Say what feels good and what not-so-good.

When the time feels right, you can begin showing one another how to give the most pleasure by stroking and massaging the sexual areas, too. The only rule is that you should both enjoy it.

Modern-style vibrators designed especially to suit women's sexual responses can make a terrific difference.

Tingletip is a tiny but powerful vibrator for clitoral stimulation only, designed to fit on the head of an electric toothbrush – so great for travelling (www.tingletip.com).

The Vielle range (www.vielle.co.uk), which includes a non-electrical clitoral stimulator, lubricant and stimulating gel, is widely available in pharmacies and Boots.

Some women can climax when masturbating or when stimulated in some similar way by their partner, but cannot reach orgasm during intercourse.

In fact, this is normal, as only a minority of women do climax during intercourse. Most reach orgasm through other stimulation. to be continued

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WE hear a lot these days about how people can and should make love, but there are virtually no rules for good sex.

It isn't compulsory to have an orgasm. As long as a woman is left feeling satisfied, neither she nor her partner should feel that they have in any way failed because she hasn't had an orgasm.

Sex is for your pleasure, not to pass some test. Many women, however, while they enjoy intercourse with their partner, never or rarely reach orgasm, and are left feeling dissatisfied as a result.

Women's problems over orgasm vary. Some women have never experienced an orgasm at all. This is often because they were brought up to think of sex as something not quite nice.

Parents worried about daughters getting pregnant may keep impressing on them that they mustn't get carried away. It is small wonder that, when they have a partner, they can't suddenly undo all those lessons to their sub-conscious.

Before a woman who has never experienced an orgasm can help her partner to help her to climax, she has to learn for herself what pleases her. Sex is a positive pleasure, and there is nothing wrong with enjoying it, even when you are alone.

Having given yourself permission to enjoy your sexuality, you have to find out what turns you on, explore the effect of different caresses of the genital area.

There is nothing wrong with self-stimulation - in fact it is a basic part of the treatment prescribed by sex therapists.

It's not stimulation of the vagina, by the way, but of the clitoris that leads to orgasm for most women - the clitoris is the little peak you can feel in the front of the vagina. to be continued

Siapkan Diri untuk "Multiple Orgasms"

Menikmati orgasme tampaknya masih menjadi harapan besar bagi sebagian besar kaum perempuan. Maka berbahagialah Anda yang telah mampu mendapatkannya. Bahkan, kini Anda pun dapat mencoba untuk memperoleh orgasme berulang.

Multiple orgasms dapat terjadi dalam jeda waktu menit, jam, atau bahkan sepanjang Anda masih bersama suami sepanjang malam, demikian menurut pakar relationship dari majalah Redbook, Lou Paget, yang juga penulis The Big O. Bahkan, lebih mudah bagi wanita untuk mendapatkan orgasme lebih dari sekali daripada pria karena tubuh wanita tidak perlu melalui masa pemulihan seusai orgasme pertama. Artinya, kita bisa tetap di puncak lebih lama dan tetap siap untuk melakukan sesi selanjutnya. Bila ingin mencoba, ikuti langkah-langkah di bawah ini. Baik sendiri atau bersama pasangan, nikmati saja eksplorasi ini.

Step 1: Berikan rangsangan dari luar
Siapa pun sebenarnya memiliki kesempatan lebih besar untuk menikmati orgasme lebih dari sekali. Usahakan agar sebelum pasangan menyentuh tubuh Anda, Anda sudah mendapatkan rangsangan seksual dari luar, seperti musik, lilin, pijatan, film, atau apa pun yang berhubungan dengan tubuh Anda. "Semakin tinggi energi seksual Anda dibangun sebelum tubuh Anda disentuh, lebih mudah Anda mendapatkan orgasme, bahkan lebih dari sekali karena hasrat Anda lebih tinggi," ungkap Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, penulis The Multi-Orgasmic Woman.

Step 2: Tarik-ulur dulu
Setelah melakukan pemanasan, kini saatnya Anda mengusahakan segala sesuatunya lebih panas. Belai kulit Anda dengan bahan yang mewah atau bermainlah pada daerah yang sensitif, seperti leher atau dada. Begitu tubuh Anda merespons sentuhan, gerakan, atau rangsangan genital tersebut, tahan untuk tidak melakukan penetrasi lebih dulu. Abrams berpendapat bahwa perempuan lebih efektif mendapatkan orgasme pertamanya melalui rangsangan klitoral secara langsung, yang dapat dicapai dengan vibrator atau secara oral dan manual. Lakukan perlahan, jangan tergesa-gesa, dan cobalah untuk menunda orgasme hingga Anda tidak dapat menahannya lagi.

"Dengan mundur dulu sebelum orgasme, lalu membangun kembali, dan mundur lagi beberapa kali, Anda dapat meningkatkan jumlah tensi seksual pada tubuh secara signifikan," jelas Abrams. Hal ini juga tidak hanya meningkatkan kesempatan Anda mendapatkan orgasme pertama yang hebat, tetapi juga menyiapkan Anda untuk merasakan orgasme selanjutnya. "Tubuh Anda mulai mengharapkan hal ini setelah Anda mengalami klimaks satu kali. Anda pun akan memperolehnya karena Anda sudah melatihnya untuk siap bangun dan jatuh," lanjutnya.

Step 3: Raih orgasme Anda.
Belum benar-benar mencapai puncak? Coba tambahkan kontraksi pada otot PC Anda, yang juga dikenal sebagai latihan Kegel. "Jika Anda melakukan kontraksi secara ritmis begitu rasa senang itu terbangun, Anda dapat merasakan orgasme," ujar Abrams. Studi juga telah menunjukkan bahwa wanita yang tahu bagaimana mengkontraksi otot-otot PC-nya lebih memungkinkan untuk mendapatkan multiple orgasms.

Step 4: Ulangi kembali rangsangannya.
Mulailah untuk menstimulasi klitoris Anda lagi selama 30 detik setelah orgasme pertama. Dengan melakukan hal ini, Anda dapat membantu tubuh Anda yang masih di puncak tetap berada dalam kondisinya. Jika klitoris Anda terlalu sensitif untuk langsung disentuh, kembalilah ke area lain yang Anda rasakan menyenangkan pada langkah kedua. "Anda perlu bertahan pada energi seksual tersebut dengan terus melakukan sentuhan," kata Abrams.

Saat Anda siap, cobalah untuk mulai melakukan intercourse dengan stimulasi klitoral (gunakan tangan Anda, tangan pasangan, atau vibrator jika intercourse saja belum mencapai titik rangsangan). Lakukan juga gerakan kegel (seperti saat Anda menahan buang air kecil) untuk membantu Anda mencapai klimaks selanjutnya. Meskipun demikian, tak perlu menaruh harap terlalu besar. "Jangan berfokus pada orgasmenya karena Anda akan kehilangan tujuan Anda dalam hubungan intim ini," kata Abrams. Fokuslah pada rasa senang, lalu ikuti saja kesenangan tersebut, maka orgasme akan datang.

Bila Anda belum berhasil mendapatkan multiple orgasms ini, jangan menyerah. Coba terus dan nikmati setiap sentuhan pasangan.(Kompas)

Pria dari Mars, Wanita dari Venus

Pria tidak suka diperintah wanita. Mengapa? Karena mereka takut gagal. Maka, bila wanita meminta pria melakukan sesuatu yang tidak biasa dilakukan pria, mereka takut akan tampak lemah atau dicap tidak mampu. Adalah penting bagi pria untuk tidak kehilangan muka.
Demikian dikatakan John Gray, psikolog yang menulis buku "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". Bukunya dibaca oleh hampir setiap penasihat perkawinan di negara-negara besar.
Adakalanya suami bisa sangat menjengkelkan. Istri tidak boleh memilih film yang akan ditonton di TV, dia enggan mendengarkan keluhan istri, dia enggan berlaku manis kepada mertua.

Istri suka bangun pagi di hari Minggu, suami merasa itulah satu-satunya hari ia bisa bangun siang. Istri minta tolong disiapkan meja makan ketika sedang menyelesaikan masakan di dapur, suami bilang sedang nonton sepakbola di TV. Istri ingin tinggal berdua saja di rumah pada suatu malam, suami bilang mau ke fitness.

Deborah Tannen, profesor linguistik dari Universitas Georgetown, menjelaskan mengapa kompromi suami-istri sulit dilakukan. Bagi wanita, kompromi berarti kedekatan, merasa dimengerti; bagi pria yang penting adalah kekuatan dan kemerdekaan. Ini sebenarnya berlawanan dengan kompromi.

Selain itu, pria dan wanita punya cara berlainan dalam mengungkapkan sesuatu. Pria lebih terus terang, tanpa basa basi, wanita cenderung kebalikannya. Bila wanita bertanya, 'Mau nonton malam ini?' dan dijawab 'Tidak', ia tersinggung karena yang dimaksudnya adalah 'Saya ingin nonton'.

Begitu pula pria. Ketika ia mendengar pernyataan 'Kamu tidak pernah memperhatikan saya', ia menganggapnya sebagai tuduhan sehingga merasa harus membela diri. Sebenarnya pria tidak begitu mengerti maksud susunan kata seperti itu, karena wanita hanya ingin mengatakan 'Saya merasa diabaikan belakangan ini. Saya ingin dihibur'.

Tannen menyarankan wanita agar lebih terus terang dan tidak bertele-tele ketika berbicara dengan pria, dan pria agar belajar mendengarkan dengan lebih baik.

Memendam Kekesalan

Kompromi adalah sifat bawaan wanita. Ketika mereka memulai sebuah hubungan, mereka ingin segalanya berjalan mulus. Maka mereka menahan diri untuk tidak menanggapi setiap masalah yang timbul. Oleh karena itu pria berasumsi bahwa bila hubungan mereka berkembang ke tingkat pernikahan, wanita pasti akan mulai kritis, mulai meminta pria melakukan hal-hal yang tidak terlintas dibenaknya.

Banyak wanita yang suka menyimpan kekesalannya sampai detik-detik terakhir. Ada seorang wanita yang mengasuh sendiri kedua anaknya sambil berkantor di rumah. Ia menyongsong suaminya yang baru pulang kerja dengan berbagai pekerjaan rumah. Suami yang letih hanya berkata, "Tolong ambilkan minum, nanti saya bantu". Hal ini membuat istrinya 'meledak'. "Saya masak, mencuci, mengurus anak-anak, kerja juga cari uang. Kamu, minum saja minta diambilkan." Alhasil, suami pergi lagi untuk mencari minuman di bar atau kafe.

Memang mengesalkan bila pria tidak mau membantu di rumah, kata John Gray. Tetapi menurutnya wanita sering menggunakan taktik yang menyulitkan. Mereka memberi tanpa mengeluh, menunggu pria melakukan sesuatu atas inisiatif sendiri. Bila inisiatif itu ternyata tidak ada, segala kekesalan yang menumpuk dikeluarkannya. Pada saat itu wanita merasa berhak untuk marah.

Di lain pihak, ada wanita yang ketika memulai suatu hubungan menganggap pria itu bodoh, mudah dibentuk. Wanita yang demikian adalah wanita yang tidak percaya diri, tegas John Gray. Ia selalu meminta pria membuktikan cintanya dengan mengubah diri sesuai keinginan wanita itu. Ini bukan kompromi namanya.

Salah Satu Mengalah

Kenneth Frank, direktur pelatihan National Institute for the Psychotherapist di New York mengatakan bahwa sebenarnya wanitalah yang sering sulit berkompromi. Kalau wanita tidak yakin akan hubungannya, ia merasa harus menjadi pemegang kemudi. Ini pola yang jelas-jelas tidak akan menghasilkan apa-apa.

Frank mencontohkan Emi dan suaminya. Ketika pasangan itu datang berkonsultasi padanya, terasa seperti ada angin ribut masuk dari pintu kantornya. Mereka terus menerus saling menghardik. Jelas bahwa masalah mereka adalah bagaimana mencapai kesepakatan tetapi harus ada salah satu yang menang (artinya salah satu yang lain harus mengalah). Oleh karena itu semua perselisihan yang pernah terjadi disebut-sebut lagi.

Emi dan suaminya terperangkap dalam pertikaian yang umum terjadi pada suami-istri. Masing-masing begitu marahnya sehingga kompromi menjadi sesuatu yang sama peliknya dengan perdamaian dunia. "Saya harus membantu mereka untuk belajar saling mendengarkan," kata Frank.

Akhirnya, mereka belajar mengungkapkan kebutuhannya dan berusaha memahami sudut pandang pasangannya. Setelah enam bulan berlalu, mereka dapat berbicara dengan tenang dan menemukan jalan tengah.

Di balik Hal Sepele

Pada mulanya banyak pasangan yang ingin saling membahagiakan, tetapi tak lama kemudian mereka kehilangan semangat itu. Masing-masing jadi ingin melihat segala sesuatu terjadi sesuai keinginannya. Mereka jadi lebih memperhatikan perbedaan daripada persamaan yang ada.

Ketidakmampuan berkompromi dapat timbul dalam masalah yang sepele. Ada pasangan yang bertengkar hanya karena masing-masing merasa lebih tahu jalan terbaik menuju toko terdekat. Ada juga yang sering bertengkar gara-gara suami selalu memencet pasta gigi dari bagian tengah. Sebetulnya penyelesaiannya mudah. Beli saja pasta gigi sendiri-sendiri.

Tapi ketahuilah, seringkali di balik hal-hal yang sepele tersembunyi masalah yang besar. Orang yang merasa tidak dihargai oleh pasangannya namun tidak berani mengungkapkan kepedihannya, sering mengeluarkan sakit hati itu ke soal-soal remeh.

John Gray, psikolog yang menulis Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus itu menganjurkan suami-istri untuk mengubah pola pikir. Bukan 'Bagaimana mendapatkan yang saya inginkan', tetapi 'Bagaimana cara menyampaikan apa yang saya inginkan'.

Jangan sering mengeritik atau menyuruh, tetapi ungkapkan perasaan Anda. Katakan apa yang Anda inginkan darinya, bukan apa yang salah padanya. Cobalah melihat dari sudut pandang pasangan Anda. Tidak perlu setuju dengannya tapi dengan mengerti dirinya, hal itu membuat dia tidak kaku dan tidak marah.

Tidak setiap perselisihan harus diselesaikan. Suami-istri yang bahagiapun sering berselisih, dan perselisihan itu tidak berakhir dengan kompromi. Namun, walaupun masalahnya tidak 'selesai', masing-masing merasa sudah didengar pendapatnya.

Memang berkompromi adalah sulit bagi kebanyakan pria. Oleh karena itu John Gray menyarankan agar wanita menunjukkan penghargaannya bagi upaya seremeh apapun yang dilakukan pasangannya./kapanlagi

Sangat Disarankan bagi Wanita untuk Masturbasi

Pria sering kali saling meledek soal aktivitas seksual yang dilakukan sendiri ini. Namun jika mau jujur, sebenarnya mereka amat terbantu dengan kemampuan "swalayan" ini. Sementara itu, di kalangan wanita, masturbasi boleh dibilang amat jarang menjadi bahan perbincangan. Selain belum dapat dikatakan sebagai aktivitas yang lazim dilakukan, masturbasi seolah juga masih tabu dibicarakan di kalangan wanita. Padahal, masturbasi memberikan manfaat yang sama besarnya bagi wanita.

Tidak heran, para sex therapist pun tidak berhenti mengadakan penelitian mengenai aktivitas ini. Mereka merekomendasikan masturbasi untuk wanita yang mengalami kesulitan mencapai orgasme karena membantu mereka mengenali tubuh dan apa yang menyenangkan bagi mereka. Masturbasi pada wanita dapat memberikan manfaat, baik bagi kesehatan, maupun hubungan wanita dengan pasangannya. Apa saja manfaat tersebut?

1. Wanita dapat mencapai orgasme dengan masturbasi.
Menurut dr Ferryal Loetan, ASC&T, SpRM, MKes-MMR (F), konsultan seksologi dan spesialis rehabilitasi medik dari RS Harapan Bunda, Jakarta, seperti dikutip tabloid Nakita, normal saja jika wanita dapat mencapai orgasme dengan masturbasi. Sama halnya dengan pria yang bisa mendapatkan orgasmenya dengan masturbasi. Namun, pada wanita bisa dibedakan, ada orgasme yang terjadi akibat rangsangan klitoris, ada juga yang akibat rangsangan pada G-spot.

Namun, jika ingin mendapatkan orgasme ketika sedang berhubungan seks, lebih baik mencoba posisi yang lebih memusatkan rangsangan pada klitoris atau disebut CAT (coital alignment technique) seperti posisi doggy style. Saat melakukan hubungan seksual, wanita bisa mendapatkan orgasme dari rangsangan ke klitoris dan juga ke G-spot. Orgasme karena rangsangan ke klitoris namanya orgasme klitoral, sedangkan yang ke G-spot disebut orgasme vaginal. Kalau bisa keduanya dilakukan berbarengan akan lebih asyik lagi bagi wanita karena orgasmenya menjadi dobel (berkali lipat). Untuk ini, banyak teknik yang bisa dilakukan, yang intinya bisa mengenai kedua tempat tersebut secara bersamaan. Caranya dengan melatih keterampilan bersama.

2. Orgasme lebih cepat didapatkan saat masturbasi.
Menurut dr Ferryal, orgasme yang diperoleh saat masturbasi bisa lebih cepat daripada yang diperoleh saat berhubungan intim dengan pasangan. Sebab pada dasarnya wanita memang butuh waktu yang lebih lama dibandingkan pria untuk bisa mencapai keadaan "panas". Perlu dipahami, dengan masturbasi, rangsangan biasanya langsung tertuju ke daerah alat kelamin dan tempat-tempat tertentu sehingga memudahkan terjadinya orgasme.

3. Masturbasi pada wanita dapat dilakukan dengan berbagai cara.
Menurut penelitian, kebanyakan wanita pernah bermasturbasi setidaknya sekali dalam hidup mereka. Frekuensi dan usia saat melakukannya bervariasi, tidak ada patokan normal mengenai hal tersebut. Banyak wanita merasa bersalah saat melakukan masturbasi, khususnya ketika mereka sebenarnya sudah berpasangan. Namun menurut sex therapist, wanita tak perlu merasa bersalah. Sebab pasangan bisa saja sedang lelah, sedang ke luar kota, pokoknya sedang enggak "available". Jadi, jika kita memang sedang "ingin", masturbasi bisa jadi jalan keluarnya.

Masturbasi juga bisa dilakukan dengan metode apa saja. "Cara apa pun bisa dianggap normal," ungkap Paul Joannides, PsyD, seorang psychoanalyst di Waldport, Ore.

Dari survei diketahui, jari tangan dan vibrator adalah dua metode yang umum digunakan dalam masturbasi wanita. Lebih dari separuh dari 2.056 wanita, berusia 18-60 tahun, menggunakan vibrator, baik saat bermasturbasi, maupun intercourse. Demikian menurut Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH, Associate Director dari Center for Sexual Health Promotion di Indiana University, Bloomington, yang memimpin survei tersebut. Sebanyak 30 persen dari wanita yang disurvei menyatakan pernah memakai vibrator.

Beberapa ahli sebenarnya mengkhawatirkan efek samping dari penggunaan vibrator, seperti sakit atau mati rasa pada alat kelamin. Adapun Frank Sommers, MD, seorang psikiater di Toronto, mengatakan bahwa penggunaan vibrator yang terlalu sering saat masturbasi akan mengurangi kemampuan wanita mencapai orgasme dengan pasangan. Menurutnya, penggunaan vibrator berlebihan dapat membiasakan sistem saraf otonomik pada suatu stimulasi yang tak dapat dilakukan oleh manusia.

4. Masturbasi dapat memperbaiki mood, tanpa kewajiban melakukan seks berpasangan.
"Masturbasi dapat memperbaiki mood yang turun," ungkap Kathleen Segraves, PhD, sex therapist dan guru besar tamu bidang psikiatri di Case Western Reserve University. "Dengan solo sex, perhatian tidak akan teralih, dan Anda bisa fokus pada pengalaman Anda sendiri tanpa perlu memastikan pasangan juga menikmati atau tidak," tambahnya. Hal ini tidak perlu diartikan Anda tidak memedulikan pasangan. Namun, bahwa sekali-sekali Anda juga boleh kok memikirkan diri sendiri, begitu kata para pakar.

5. Masturbasi dapat memperbaiki kehidupan seks bersama pasangan.
Wanita yang bermasturbasi secara rutin dapat mempelajari apa yang menyenangkan untuk mereka. Hal itu dikatakan Segraves. "Hal itu dapat membantu kepercayaan diri secara seksual, dan membantu membimbing pasangan jika Anda memiliki pasangan," ujarnya. Sebagai contoh, Anda bisa mengatakan pada pasangan, "Taruh tanganmu di sini," tanpa merasa malu, kata Segraves.

Sedangkan Herbenick menambahkan, wanita yang menggunakan vibrator selama masturbasi cenderung memiliki fungsi seksual yang lebih baik bersama pasangan. Ia mendapati bahwa wanita yang menggunakan vibrator mendapatkan fungsi seksual yang lebih baik dalam hal pelumasan vagina, hasrat, bangkitnya gairah, dan kemudahan orgasme, dan mereka cenderung tidak mengalami sakit atau ketidaknyamanan yang didapat saat intercourse.

6. Masturbasi membantu Anda rileks.
Saat menghadapi hari yang menyebalkan, wanita sering terpengaruh, dan berpikir, "Bagaimana ya, harus memperbaikinya?" Menurut para peneliti, dibandingkan pria, wanita lebih mungkin mengingat-ingat perdebatan atau hubungan yang buruk dengan orang lain. Hal inilah yang menyebabkan stres. Jika Anda bisa mulai menyenangkan diri sendiri, Anda dapat meredakan stres yang diakibatkan oleh pikiran-pikiran semacam itu. Memang tidak selamanya dapat mengatasi, tetapi setidaknya dapat membantu. Demikian menurut Segraves.

7. Masturbasi dapat mengurangi nyeri saat haid.
Kebiasaan bermasturbasi dilaporkan dapat membantu mengurangi kram perut saat menstruasi, dan memperbaiki gejala PMS lain, seperti rasa mudah marah atau mudah tersinggung. Masturbasi yang berlanjut hingga orgasme bahkan dapat membantu mengurangi migrain. Meskipun orgasme kadang-kadang ditemukan sebagai pemicu migrain, aktivitas tersebut juga dapat menguranginya. Demikian menurut beberapa penelitian. Para ilmuwan berspekulasi bahwa beberapa faktor yang dikaitkan dengan orgasme (sendiri atau bersama pasangan) dapat menyembunyikan rasa sakit, atau proses migrain.

Pria Bisa Orgasme Berulangkali

Seperti halnya wanita, pria sebenarnya juga dapat merasakan orgasme berulang kali (multiple orgasm). Mencapai orgasme berulang pada pria sebenarnya bukan hal mustahil, asalkan mengetahui pemahaman dasar tentang seksualitas pria, teknik-teknik tertentu serta pelatihan secara rutin.

Sebagian besar fokus seksualitas pria biasanya tertuju pada ejakulasi semata, ketimbang proses aktual bercinta. Padahal ketika seorang pria bisa melakukan orgasme berulang, dia tak hanya akan memuaskan dirinya tetapi juga secara efektif akan memuaskan pasangannya.

Secara teknis, multiple orgasm terjadi dalam sebuah rangkaian tanpa adanya rangsangan yang terputus antara kedua pasangan. Wanita sendiri telah diberkahi kemampuan untuk melakukan multiple orgasm. Namun tak banyak yang tahu bahwa pria juga sebenarnya bisa melakukan hal yang sama asalkan melatihnya secara benar.

Dalam kasus wanita, multiple orgasm berarti dapat meneruskan lagi rangsangan seksual secepatnya setelah mengalami masa klimaks. Biasanya waktu yang dibutuhkan hanya beberapa saat saja, sehingga klimaks kedua pun bisa dicapai. Intinya, jika seorang wanita benar-benar mengalami beberapa kali klimaks saat berhubungan, maka ia dapat dikatakan mengalami multiple orgasm.

Sementara itu, kebanyakan pria masih percaya bahwa multiple orgasm adalah kemampuan untuk mencapai ereksi sesegera mungkin setelah mengalami ejakulasi, untuk kemudian ereksi lagi dan mencapai klimaks. Ini jelas sebuah anggapan yang salah. Karena multiple orgasm sebenarnya terjadi tanpa harus kehilangan ereksi di antara proses orgasme. Jadi, multiple orgasme pada pria hanya melibatkan orgasme semata, dan tidak ejakulasi. Satu-satunya pengecualian di sini adalah ejakulasi tersebut mengikuti orgasme terakhir pada kejadian multi-orgasme.

Latih PC Anda
Jika pria ingin mengalami "getaran hebat" berulang-ulang, maka kuncinya adalah ereksi yang sempurna dan kemampuan menahan ejakulasi. Untuk mencapai kemampuan ini, ada beberapa teknik yang dianjurkan misalnya dengan melatih otot dasar panggul atau pubococcygeus (PC) yang dikenal sebagai otot seksual utama pendukung fungsi seksual wanita maupun pria. Faktor stamina juga memegang peran penting supaya tak mudah kelelahan.

Seorang sex therapist bernama Barbara Kesling Ph.D dalam buku The Complete Book of Mens Health mengemukakan, untuk mencapai multiple orgasm seorang pria dapat melakoni program yang terdiri dari dua bagian yakni fisik dan mental. Untuk program fisik, pria harus rajin melatih otot PC (yang biasa digunakan saat Anda ingin menghentikan aliran kencing) dengan cara mengkontraksikan dan mengendurkannya selama beberapa kali dalam sehari.

Latihan otot PC ini juga sering dikenal dengan nama senam kegel. Senam ini sangat sederhana sama seperti halnya saat menahan kencing. Anda.bisa melakukannya di kantor, antre di bank, menonton TV, atau saat menelepon. Bahkan Anda pun bisa memulainya sekarang.

Awalilah latihan dengan mencoba melakukan beberapa kali kontraksi singkat (flick) . Setelah itu, kontraksikan dan kendurkan otot PC Anda sebanyak 10 kali secara berturut-turut dalam waktu singkat. Kemudian cobalah mengkontraksikan otot PC dan menahannya selama 15 detik.

Lakukanlan secara teratur dan tingkatkan secara bertahap latihan hingga Anda bisa melakukan 10 kali flick dan 10 kali latihan menahan otot PC setiap hari. Hasilnya akan tampak pada 3-4 minggu kemudian. Dengan catatan, senam ini dijalani teratur dan tak dilakukan berlebihan karena area genital Anda akan mengalami cedera.

Latih mental
Untuk latihan mental, program dipusatkan pada pikiran dan otak. Di sini Anda harus belajar fokus dan mengidentifikasi setiap tahapan rangsangan selama berhubungan. Dengan begitu, Anda akan tahu kapan kemampuan mengatur otot PC dapat digunakan guna mencegah ejakulasi.

Memahami tahapan rangsangan yang Anda lalui menjelang orgasme dapat dilakukan ketika Anda berhubungan atau pun masturbasi. Dr Keesling membuat tahapan ini dalam level 1 hingga 10, yakni level 1 untuk tahapan tanpa rangsangan hingga 10 untuk tahap orgasme.

Ketika Anda sudah terlatih mengatur otot PC dan memahami dengan baik tahapan rangsangan seksual, tahap berikutnya adalah melatih diri untuk menghentikan sejenak (pause) di setiap level rangsangan berbeda. Penting artinya di sini untuk memiliki partner yang kooperatif dan sensitif.

Ketika berhubungan, awali proses penetrasi dengan perlahan hingga Anda mencapai level 4. Kemudian tahan dan ambilah nafas dalam-dalam sambil mengontraksikan otot PC Anda. Dengan begitu, level rangsangan Anda akan menurun setidaknya hingga satu atau dua level. Lalu cobalah untuk kembali beraksi dan berupaya meningkatkan level rangsangan Anda, Tahan lagi dan lakukan secara berulang menggunakan otot PC.

Pada saat rangsangan mendekati level tertinggi (level 10), kerahkan segala kemampuan untuk menahan keluarnya sperma (ejakulasi) dengan mengontraksikan otot PC. Pada proses ini, jangan pernah tutup mata Anda dan tariklah nafas dalam-dalam. Di sini Anda akan merasakan kenikmatan sebuah orgasme tanpa harus ejakulasi.

Setelah itu, rilekslah untuk beberapa menit sehingga Anda mendapat waktu beristirahat. Tanpa disadari, Anda sudah melakukan orgasme pertama, dan siap melakukan orgasme berikutnya!